Yes I would love to be a better tango dancer... yes I know I should do more classes/workshops/privates...I am simply coasting along in my tango. One of Sydney's better tango teachers told me this week I was 'very nice to dance with' but I know I would love to do better. So what stops me from doing something about it?
I have decided to take a couple of small steps to improvement. I have enrolled in 2 forthcoming workshops - and I may do more. I know I really need to do privates with a good leader as well.
Possibly what stops me is what stops many.
Time. Tango is hugely time consuming. You can give it every moment of your spare time and still not feel satisfied. I think it is what keeps so many of us coming back for more. I have an extended family, a part-time job and I'm a freelance writer. I love to cook, to read and to walk every day and I do yoga at least twice a week. Throw in a few coffees with friends, the occasional trip to the theatre - and there's not a lot of time left. Life needs balance.
Money. Private classes are expensive, especially if you do them on a regular basis. I don't make a heap of disposable money... and I love to buy shoes, clothes, books, tickets to events, shoes...
The right teacher. I need to find someone I want to learn from and although there are one or two in Sydney I would like to study with, I am not sure I can keep it up.
Those are my main reasons/excuses - but maybe by enrolling in these workshops I will set the ball rolling - after all you will make time to do something if you really want to do it - if I've learnt anything in the many decades I've been on this earth it is that!
And just as an aside - you may be wondering what made me write this piece today? I was musing on why many, particularly men, do not understand the need to improve their tango. Sometimes I will go to a milonga, look around the room and wonder who I would like to dance with - and sometimes there are just two or three I hope will ask me. I was jolted into thinking about this by a man I like to dance with (not my partner) who asked me at milonga recently who else I would like to dance with. Maybe the men are making the same excuses I am?